The weather this past week has put me in a strange mood, I have been all over the place. When I get into these moods I get very reflective and ponder many aspects of my life, over thinking things, over dramatising things, over reacting to things. The weather has a lot to answer for and it affects us all.
August is a funny month, it should be beautiful weather but so often we get storms and cold periods and you realise that Summer is a fleeting season that we need to enjoy as much as possible. August is also a month when I find myself in these strange moods. I then got to thinking, as I am over thinking things at the moment. Is this a bad thing? Sometimes it is good to be reflective and ponder aspects of your life. Especially if this means that you improve your life in some way, whether this is being more mindful of other people, more forgiving to other people and yourself or being more dynamic as you realise you are just drifting along.
It is important to embrace all our moods, the good, the bad and the reflective because by listening to ourselves we can then move on to become our best selves.
“You don’t need a new sunrise to start over, you only need a new mindset”
In the UK we have a wonderful mantra our home is our castle, whatever the size, type, location it doesn’t matter because as soon as we close our front door we are in our own castle, space and zone. For some this will be zen like and for others chaotic disorder, but it is ours to flourish in.
It is important that we create the zones that we want in our homes, it doesn’t matter if you have 35 metre square or 200 metre square of space, it is what you do with that space that matters. In our journey for mindfulness it is important to find a peaceful zone, a seat by a window, or beautiful picture to sitting on our bed, it needs to be place where we feel happy, secure and able to close our eyes and relax. Breath and bring in energy, because it is this mindfulness that takes us through our journey of life.
While we are in our castles we are free to act and behave exactly as we want away from prying eyes, it is a place to totally relax, play and chill to restore our energy. So, make the most of your home, fill it with love and items that share memories, laughter and comfort so that we can become more soulful, strong and resilient when we have to leave our safe boundary.
“Home is the start place of love, hope and dreams”
Summer is in full swing and many of us will be heading off on our holidays. However, sometimes we find it so hard to switch off. So, it is time to train our minds to be in the present, rather than miles and weeks away. Before you head off, try and start to be mindfulness prior to the holiday, find moments before you have to pack those suitcases to relax your mind.
Think about the blue sky ahead, the beach and the waves lapping up on the sand, feel your mind looking at the sky and hearing those waves, see yourself on that sun lounger relaxing. Become more present and focused on your tasks, whether in the car or in the office, by being present you will be more grounded and more positive, switch off your phone notifications then you can get back to people and connect on your own terms.
Plan ahead and make a list of tasks and items that need to go on holiday with you all. Then relax, feel the wind in your hair, the sun on your skin and the sea on your body.
Just like that holiday time is with us….. are you ready for it? We spend most of the year covered up, hiding our bodies. Some of us love our bodies and some of us hate our bodies. How did you feel last time someone said “Wow you look fantastic” embarrassed, quick to tell them you don’t, muffle something in return, or did you say thank you very much and mean it?
Most of us look at our bodies in the mirror and value everything on how it looks. Stop, focus on how you feel and what your body can do. By focusing on keeping active, our wellbeing and how our bodies function you will gain more body confidence than by looking in the mirror. Think about what your body does on a daily basis, how strong it is and most important of all how hard it works for us all.
Next time you have a critical thought about yourself, think about how your arms open to hug a loved one, how strong they are to carry a child or support an older relative.Stop being critical about the bits you dislike, no one has their perfect body so go on holiday, put on that bikini and walk proud.
When the sun comes out we start to feel grateful. When you go to a festival, as I did last week, you start to feel grateful. You realise it is the simple things in life which are the most important, family, friends and feeling the sun on your face and sand in your toes.
The summer is a great time to reflect on the simple things, we go on holiday which revitalises our souls, we feel the sun on our faces and often we get back to nature. Just listening to the birds go about their daily routines, the waves rolling in on the beach, the wind in our hair on the mountains, or simply sipping a coffee and watching the world go by.
The simple things in life are often free, make us feel good both inside and out and hopefully we can take these feelings with us throughout the year when the nights close in.
Next time the green eyed monster appears, remember we can have as many monetary things that our purses allow, but it won’t bring us the happiness of sun on our face and sand in our toes.
Thank You, two words that hold so much power. It is a proven fact that people who express gratitude to other people live, happier, healthier lives. It shows appreciation, it strengthens relations, it makes people feel better and more loved, it makes you count your blessings.
Rather than get angry be thankful. Think of positive things in negative times, be thankful that you can walk in the park, wood or beach, be thankful that you can look up to the sky, be thankful for that holiday. We all have a lot to be thankful for.
So put it in writing and make your colleague, friend or partner feel happy, give yourself a pat on the back and you will feel your confidence rise. Take that walk in the park with no distractions and listen to nature, look at the sunshine, feel the wind or rain and be in the moment.
Being thankful and saying thank you, reduces stress, anxiety and makes you more positive. So let your confidence grow, and learn to harness, heal and enjoy the happiness that will come.
How do you speak to yourself, are you loving and kind, or picky and negative? Do you encourage yourself to develop or do you criticise and judge?
Isn’t it amazing that when we speak to our friends, we encourage, we care, we are loving and kind, passing on compliments. Talking to ourselves however we sabotage, pick, and can be so totally negative which in effect knocks our self confidence, our own compassion, our judgement and our healthy choices. By belittling ourselves we are sabotaging our own happiness.
Stop, be kind to yourself, accept yourself, stop judging yourself in a negative way. Start being self compassionate, treating yourself with kindness and acceptance. We all face challenging times and need to overcome hurdles but we don’t need to respond with negative thoughts and self criticism.
So next time you starting talking down to yourself, stop and think how would you encourage a friend who was in a similar situation and give yourself lots of self love.
It always happens we are rushing through life getting our chores done, getting to work on time, making that appointment by the skin of our teeth. We spend our time focusing on the next thing, the next week, the next year. We look at all the problems coming up, all the bumps in our life.
It is time to clear our minds, be grateful for small things, our health, the flowers in the park, a beautiful sunset. If we concentrate on the good things, the things happening now, not tomorrow, next week, next year we can challenge setbacks, we are more content and we can focus on all the good things in the day.
Living in the moment is a challenge as we all want to think about the future, but try, think of 3 positive things each morning, write them down and then in the evening think about those positive things again, and if those positive things happened how did you feel, empowered, smile, feel grateful?
Don’t look at the ground look at the sky and smile.
A new moon is a good time for us to set our intentions and put some plans together for the next six months. By setting our goals and dreams, maybe writing them down in a journal, we can then spend time developing our ideas and enable our dreams to become a reality.
The new moon in Gemini is also a period of building friendships and ideas, accepting people just the way they are. Geminis always see both sides of a story and with the new moon this means embracing difference, being kind to yourself, kind to other people.
In my classes this week we will be exploring the New Moon, setting intentions and changing our mindset and feeling the energy.
Embrace the New Moon by setting 3 good intentions every day when you wake up.
So there I am waiting for the kettle to boil and I got thinking, how immersed in our own lives we can become, so much so that we don’t notice when friends are down, or busy, or struggling because we are juggling so many things ourselves. True isn’t it…..
So then I thought ok I can’t just change overnight as I am still juggling many balls of my own, but I can change things in a small way. If a friend has a hospital appointment I can put it in my diary and call her on the day to see how things went. Instead of just writing a quick happy birthday on Facebook I can call my friend and wish them a great day in person. When walking down the street I can look people in the eye and smile connecting with them.
When you make work plans you put appointments in your diary and stick to them, we should look after ourselves in the same way, put a coffee date with a friend in the diary it is important to connect on a personal level.
Bodies, we come in all shapes and sizes nobody is the same, so why do we beat ourselves up thinking we don’t have the perfect body. Nobody has the perfect body, because we are all different. I remember a story told to me by a motivational speaker about the boy Tommy who was always naughty, but he wasn’t, his parents told him he was naughty so he lived up to their expectations. We all need to think about what we say to people and make sure that we are supportive if friends or family need our help and love.
Bodies are beautiful in their difference, the way they repair themselves, the way the look after us as we get older. We should all stop and look at ourselves properly, love ourselves and our difference to anyone else. Social media can be a fake tool to mislead us and make us want to be something that we already are “perfectly imperfectl”