What do you think about in the morning, you know when the alarm goes off? Your first thoughts and I don’t mean aaaagh go away! Do you feel excited by what the day holds for you, do you feel full of energy or successful for the day ahead, or are you feeling negative, unfocused and fearful?
Those first few moments when we wake up are so important as they set the tone of the day. We should be feeling inquisitive, fearless, believe in ourselves and what we are going to achieve that day. Take a few moments and stretch like a cat it really helps you relax. Then think about how you can believe in yourself today and how these positive thoughts can help you move forward to create the life you want, be fearless as by facing our fears we grow stronger and more positive.
“Believe in yourself and there will come a day when others will have no choice but to believe with you”
– Cynthia Kersey
Did you win the lottery? In fact, did you enter the lottery last night? Finally, what would you do if you got the jackpot and suddenly became a millionaire overnight?
Makes you think doesn’t it! If money was no object how would you spend your days? Is there something that you have always secretly wanted? What if I said you have won the lottery – ok, you aren’t a millionaire overnight, but all of us have won the lottery of life.
How we live our lives, spend our time is down to each individual, we need to set our goals and work towards that achievement ….. small goals achieved become big goals achieved, small steps lead to big steps you just need to envision your ‘why’ and stick to it.
We can all achieve the jackpot, not necessarily in monitory terms, but I believe the best things in life are free. You just need to reach to the stars and dream, then put those dreams into reality.
Who is your best friend? A girlfriend, husband, partner……. I really hope not, your best, best friend should be yourself. It is time to start putting ourselves first, yes, putting ourselves first, not second, third of tenth in line whilst we boost everybody else’s confidence.
Self-compassion is treating yourself with kindness, encouraging yourself and believing that you can achieve anything you want. It is not saying unkind things or feeling bad about yourself. It is acceptance that we will face setbacks, have highs and lows. Sometime we may not stay as fit as we want, or eat as healthy as we want, but, speak to yourself as you would a friend by encouraging yourself.
Stop self-criticism and focus on all the good bits even when you are stressed. If you are having a bad day, take a deep breath and think about all the good things in your life and focus on these things, because tomorrow is a new day, a day to start again and a day to get back on track.
“Your soul will never be fully nourished by anyone’s love but your own” - Dominee
Time is flying past, it only seems a moment ago that we were all looking forward to summer and now we are looking at getting back into work mode and autumn.
I love a change of season it is the perfect time to sort out your mind, build in healthy habits and get rid of old habits that no longer serve you. We all have the power to create or change habits as they are formed from behaviour, a smell, an emotion of even a time of day. By being mindful and thinking before we behave in our normal way we can break the loop and build in new healthy habits. The more often we do these healthy new habits the more they become the new habit.
Why not create a lovely new habit today, because if we procrastinate that lovely new habit may never be formed and we will have missed an opportunity.
“Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve” – Napoleon Hill
What makes you happy? I know a strange question, but for so many of us, we don’t know, we haven’t got the time to think about happiness, laughing and what makes us tick as we muddle our ways through busy days.
Today, stop and have a think, does your life make you happy? Are you doing things in your life to make yourself happy? Do you spend lots of time dreaming about when you will be happy and what it is that will make you happy?
Have a think, write it down, write down everything that would make you truly happy. Then think is this attainable today, tomorrow, new week or next year. We all owe it to ourselves to be happy and it is important to start working towards this. Whatever your dreams for happiness they are attainable, you just need to focus and work out how you are going to attain this state and then work towards it.
We all have the possibility to be happy and as Russel Simons said “Don’t ruin a good day by thinking about a bad yesterday – Let it go”
The weather this past week has put me in a strange mood, I have been all over the place. When I get into these moods I get very reflective and ponder many aspects of my life, over thinking things, over dramatising things, over reacting to things. The weather has a lot to answer for and it affects us all.
August is a funny month, it should be beautiful weather but so often we get storms and cold periods and you realise that Summer is a fleeting season that we need to enjoy as much as possible. August is also a month when I find myself in these strange moods. I then got to thinking, as I am over thinking things at the moment. Is this a bad thing? Sometimes it is good to be reflective and ponder aspects of your life. Especially if this means that you improve your life in some way, whether this is being more mindful of other people, more forgiving to other people and yourself or being more dynamic as you realise you are just drifting along.
It is important to embrace all our moods, the good, the bad and the reflective because by listening to ourselves we can then move on to become our best selves.
“You don’t need a new sunrise to start over, you only need a new mindset”
In the UK we have a wonderful mantra our home is our castle, whatever the size, type, location it doesn’t matter because as soon as we close our front door we are in our own castle, space and zone. For some this will be zen like and for others chaotic disorder, but it is ours to flourish in.
It is important that we create the zones that we want in our homes, it doesn’t matter if you have 35 metre square or 200 metre square of space, it is what you do with that space that matters. In our journey for mindfulness it is important to find a peaceful zone, a seat by a window, or beautiful picture to sitting on our bed, it needs to be place where we feel happy, secure and able to close our eyes and relax. Breath and bring in energy, because it is this mindfulness that takes us through our journey of life.
While we are in our castles we are free to act and behave exactly as we want away from prying eyes, it is a place to totally relax, play and chill to restore our energy. So, make the most of your home, fill it with love and items that share memories, laughter and comfort so that we can become more soulful, strong and resilient when we have to leave our safe boundary.
“Home is the start place of love, hope and dreams”
Summer is in full swing and many of us will be heading off on our holidays. However, sometimes we find it so hard to switch off. So, it is time to train our minds to be in the present, rather than miles and weeks away. Before you head off, try and start to be mindfulness prior to the holiday, find moments before you have to pack those suitcases to relax your mind.
Think about the blue sky ahead, the beach and the waves lapping up on the sand, feel your mind looking at the sky and hearing those waves, see yourself on that sun lounger relaxing. Become more present and focused on your tasks, whether in the car or in the office, by being present you will be more grounded and more positive, switch off your phone notifications then you can get back to people and connect on your own terms.
Plan ahead and make a list of tasks and items that need to go on holiday with you all. Then relax, feel the wind in your hair, the sun on your skin and the sea on your body.
When I became pregnant for the first time in 2010 I was so excited at both the prospect of my now son and to my changing body. I wanted to continue my yoga practice as I felt it would help me prepare and subsequently heal my rapidly changing body and mind. It actually benefited me so much that in 2016 I qualified in pre and post natal yoga so that I could help other new mums to be.
My classes are for all levels and suitable from 12 weeks until birth, we focus on gentle modified vinyasa flows, allowing the body to stretch and strengthen in a safe way, this then helps with many pregnancy related ailments. We work on restorative poses to soothe our nervous systems and guided hypo-birthing affirmations.
I love working with new mums to be and want my classes to help you prepare for the birthing, plus provide quality time for you to connect with your unborn baby. We will introduce restorative yoga to allow your mind to rest from any anxieties you may be feeling.
My classes are geared to help you relax, restore and listen to your own body and baby, I do hope to see you on the mat soon.
For more information on my up and coming events, please have a look at my website www.lisavalentineyoga.co.uk where you can book online, classes start on the 10th September.
Just like that holiday time is with us….. are you ready for it? We spend most of the year covered up, hiding our bodies. Some of us love our bodies and some of us hate our bodies. How did you feel last time someone said “Wow you look fantastic” embarrassed, quick to tell them you don’t, muffle something in return, or did you say thank you very much and mean it?
Most of us look at our bodies in the mirror and value everything on how it looks. Stop, focus on how you feel and what your body can do. By focusing on keeping active, our wellbeing and how our bodies function you will gain more body confidence than by looking in the mirror. Think about what your body does on a daily basis, how strong it is and most important of all how hard it works for us all.
Next time you have a critical thought about yourself, think about how your arms open to hug a loved one, how strong they are to carry a child or support an older relative.Stop being critical about the bits you dislike, no one has their perfect body so go on holiday, put on that bikini and walk proud.
From the streets of Fort Kochin India to where we found it, in Biffen’s surf inspired street kitchen in Croyde, Devon.
AUBERGINE CURRY for 4
2 Aubergines, chopped
15-20 Cherry Tomatoes, halved
2 large Red Onions, chopped
6 Garlic cloves, chopped
3 tbsp Coconut Oil
1 tsp ground Cumin
3 tsp ground Coriander
1/2 ground Red Chilli Powder
1 tsp Garam Masala
1 tsp ground Turmeric
Sauté the aubergine, garlic and onion in the coconut oil for 10 minutes until soft and then add the tomatoes until soft for another couple of minutes. Add 1 tsp of salt to speed up the cooking process and really enhance the flavour.
While the aubergine is cooking, dry fry the aubergine masala spices for 30 seconds on the lowest heat possible in a frying pan with no oil, this frying is important and releases the natural oils in your masala spices, if you add the spices without dry frying them, it will have a raw taste of the spice.
Next, add a mug full of boiling water to the frying pan and stir until well mixed. Then add to the vegetable mix and combine well.
Simmer for 20-30 minutes until the sauce has thickened and you are happy with the taste.
Serve with fluffy white rice, a wedge of lime and perhaps chapatis
BIFF, BOSH, CURRY NOSH!
This and many more inspiring recipes from this talented and passionate young guy who is knocking out truly delicious street food overlooking the ocean at: biffenskitchen
When the sun comes out we start to feel grateful. When you go to a festival, as I did last week, you start to feel grateful. You realise it is the simple things in life which are the most important, family, friends and feeling the sun on your face and sand in your toes.
The summer is a great time to reflect on the simple things, we go on holiday which revitalises our souls, we feel the sun on our faces and often we get back to nature. Just listening to the birds go about their daily routines, the waves rolling in on the beach, the wind in our hair on the mountains, or simply sipping a coffee and watching the world go by.
The simple things in life are often free, make us feel good both inside and out and hopefully we can take these feelings with us throughout the year when the nights close in.
Next time the green eyed monster appears, remember we can have as many monetary things that our purses allow, but it won’t bring us the happiness of sun on our face and sand in our toes.
Thank You, two words that hold so much power. It is a proven fact that people who express gratitude to other people live, happier, healthier lives. It shows appreciation, it strengthens relations, it makes people feel better and more loved, it makes you count your blessings.
Rather than get angry be thankful. Think of positive things in negative times, be thankful that you can walk in the park, wood or beach, be thankful that you can look up to the sky, be thankful for that holiday. We all have a lot to be thankful for.
So put it in writing and make your colleague, friend or partner feel happy, give yourself a pat on the back and you will feel your confidence rise. Take that walk in the park with no distractions and listen to nature, look at the sunshine, feel the wind or rain and be in the moment.
Being thankful and saying thank you, reduces stress, anxiety and makes you more positive. So let your confidence grow, and learn to harness, heal and enjoy the happiness that will come.
How do you speak to yourself, are you loving and kind, or picky and negative? Do you encourage yourself to develop or do you criticise and judge?
Isn’t it amazing that when we speak to our friends, we encourage, we care, we are loving and kind, passing on compliments. Talking to ourselves however we sabotage, pick, and can be so totally negative which in effect knocks our self confidence, our own compassion, our judgement and our healthy choices. By belittling ourselves we are sabotaging our own happiness.
Stop, be kind to yourself, accept yourself, stop judging yourself in a negative way. Start being self compassionate, treating yourself with kindness and acceptance. We all face challenging times and need to overcome hurdles but we don’t need to respond with negative thoughts and self criticism.
So next time you starting talking down to yourself, stop and think how would you encourage a friend who was in a similar situation and give yourself lots of self love.